Rock Being Single This Valentine's Day

Feelin’ Good as Hell!

For those without a significant other, Valentine’s Day can suck.  It may seem like everyone around you has someone and you are left alone. Today’s blog is around making the most of this day no matter your romantic situation, because you can always Love Yourself!

Important mental points:

~ Act with intention! If you had someone to plan for you would be thinking throughout the day what you could do for that person to make them feel special. Spend today acting and thinking about ways to make yourself feel special.

~ Think positively about yourself!  There are always good reasons to be single. Did you just get rid of someone who wasn’t meeting your needs? Good! Did you decide to take a break and focus on yourself? Awesome! Do you just not really like people in general? Me too - sometimes! Remind yourself the good in what’s going on right now for you.

~Don’t allow negative feelings to affect you! If you begin to be affected by negative feelings, mentally remind yourself that today is for taking care of you, distract yourself with the below activities, and give yourself a break for the situation you are in. It’s OK to be reminded of what you are missing, it’s not OK to allow it to ruin your whole day.

Idea’s for the Perfect Self-Love Holiday:

Morning:

Wake up a little early today, for a number of reasons: a) Laying around in bed can increase chances of negative thinking, b) you don’t get as much rest during “snooze” time as you think, and c) you can fit in many different types of self-love before work (wink).

Stretch or work out in order to increase circulation, reset your nervous system, calm you brain and energize your body. Unsure what to do? Here are some good stretches to try.

Listen to a meditation in order to increase your intentional actions and thinking today. Based on the time you have left after stretching, simply go on YouTube and search; “Mindfulness meditation for 10 minutes.” Some people will choose to listen while stretching or while sitting comfortably. If you have something you’d like to focus on today, such as self esteem or self-awareness, simply put these words in the search bar with the length you want and give it a try.

Dress in your best work outfit - even if it’s just so fresh and so clean. Use a go-to outfit you usually feel really good in and get compliments for. Don’t wear red, screw red.

Work Hours:

On your way to/from work, listen to a pre-made mix of your favorite songs, and sing along-loud. Some people will choose to make it all angry songs, playful songs, relaxing songs, or oldies but goodies. The point is to have music that will give you the mood you want for the day.

During work make an effort to treat others nicely. This is based on the belief that if you send good out into the world, the world will return the favor. This intentional act includes being happy for others. If someone receives flowers or has something else delivered, take in the happiness they feel & don’t allow their happiness to result in your jealousy.  

Take some quizzes to get to know yourself. We all know work hours aren’t spent actually doing work, so instead of browsing social media to see all the love notes sent (cough- fake), go online and focus on learning more about yourself.

When You Get Home:

Plan a dinner of something you really like at home.  You are welcome to invite friends, but you don’t need other people to set up a comfortable, complicated meal with drinks for this special day. Don’t forget - today is special and worth the time to cook for yourself.

Splurge on dessert and drinks. Come on! One special day for chocolates or even double stuff Oreos won’t kill your diet. Do it.

Plan an after-dinner activity. Have a show you’re binge watching, a movie you’d like to see, coloring book you want to try out? Whether you want to relax or get out do something that you would enjoy. If you need some ideas, here’s a site to help you brainstorm.

And finally, masturbate. Just because you don’t have anyone to take care of you sexually, doesn’t mean you don’t get to come. Get it, and enjoy it.

Since this is an intentional day, you have to plan ahead. So, before the 14th have these things prepared:

a)       Make music mix

b)      Pick intention for the day (for meditation)

c)       Pick stretches you will complete

d)      Pick what you will wear

e)      Plan meal and treats- go food shopping

f)        Invite whomever

g)       Buy yourself a new sex toy that isn’t attached to any “couple memories”

Thank you so much for reading this blog today and remember: Your self-love day is for you! Make it what you want and schedule it any way you want!

Let me know how your day went - all feedback and additional ideas are welcome.