How to Best Utilize Your Online Dating Profile
How to Best Utilize Your Online Dating Profile
As a therapist, I always encourage my clients to date. Relationships can bring a lot to a person’s life, and even if things aren’t going well, it’s still a good story to talk about. Now-a-days, with safe people getting out and about more, I’ve been getting a lot of questions about why a person’s profile may not be attracting the right kind of people. And, when you’re not finding like-minded people, it causes burn out, discouragement, and “Dating Hopelessness.”
So, I compiled some ideas to keep your profile as an ever-changing fishing rod to get the biggest catch!
1. Be hopeful, and open to fun.
Notice I said fun and not love. There’s no guarantee of love, but anything can be fun.
Identify which type of fun you want and pick the appropriate app.
2, Make sure your settings are right
If you are surprised by the man with the breasts on your wall, please adjust your settings.
You can widen your area if you aren’t getting what you need close by. Road trip!
It’s worth the money. Just pay for it, it takes money to run shit.
3. Update your written profile often
If you find an activity you like doing on dates, mention it!
If you avoid people who do X, tell everyone!
If people keep asking you about the same thing, include it!
If you are allergic to cats, mention that (you poor, poor soul).
AND, If you are one to make spelling errors (ever) read it just to make sure something’s not spelled wrong.
4. Update your profile picture often
Please, include your face. I’m sorry, this is what you look like. Filters are just lies in electronic form.
Use only current pictures of yourself.
Take pictures of yourself on days you are feeling confident. You can even ask for help.
Love your body.
Change order of pictures- close up, full body, or silly your first picture represents you
Change types of pictures – if people ask for full body, include it, also different types of backgrounds can be conversation starters
Ask for feedback from others/ pay attention to what photos people comment on
5. Really seek to understand how you date and communicate. And, work to improve on it.
Not everyone has things figured out. Listen to what other people say and be a better person through dating.
If this was useful and you’d like me to make another blog about online dating let me know in the comments!
Written by founder and lead therapist of Where You Are Counseling Hollie O’Keefe LPC.